The 29-year-old model has shared the exciting news during an interview with Vogue, directed by Lena Dunham.
She explained that both of them won’t push a gender onto their child, and say it’s something their child can decide when they turn 18. Ratajkowski said, “When my husband and I tell friends that I’m pregnant, their first question after ‘Congratulations’ is almost always ‘Do you know what you want?’ We like to respond that we won’t know the gender until our child is 18 and that they’ll let us know then.
Everyone laughs at this. There is truth in our line, though, one that hints at possibilities that are much more complex than whatever genitalia our child might be born with: the truth that we ultimately have no idea who-rather than what-is growing inside my belly. Who will this person be? What kind of person will we become parents too? How will they change our lives and who we are? This is a wondrous and terrifying concept, one that renders us both helpless and humbled.”
Under the surface of their explanation, Emily does say she is nervous of having a baby boy, saying, “I’m scared of having a son too, although not in the same way. I’ve known far too many white men who move through the world unaware of their privilege, and I’ve been traumatised by many of my experiences with them. And boys too; it’s shocking to realise how early young boys gain a sense of entitlement-to girls’ bodies and to the world in general. I’m not scared of raising a ‘bad guy,’ as many of the men I’ve known who abuse their power do so unintentionally.
But I’m terrified of inadvertently cultivating the carelessness and the lack of awareness that are so convenient for men. It feels much more daunting to create an understanding of privilege in a child than to teach simple black-and-white morality. How do I raise a child who learns to like themself while also teaching them about their position of power in the world?”